We all have behaviours, habits, fears and anxieties which we know are reducing the quality of our lives but which we somehow seem unable to change.
We like to think we’re in charge but our unconscious mind is guiding our behaviour and responses to everyday situations 90% of the time without us realising it. That means we are in a practiced trance for the majority of our lives, acting on autopilot to things around us we are not even aware of.
That’s why deciding we want to change often isn’t enough. It explains why we carry on doing the same things over and over again. We do our very best and try different strategies but without success. Most of the time all we’re actually doing is managing surface symptoms instead of getting to the root of the issue.
Working with the unconscious mind
The unconscious mind is a storehouse of information including our deepest fears, beliefs and attitudes. It uses past experiences to give context to present situations in order to guide our response in each situation, and thereby keep us safe. If we attacked or threatened by a dog once upon a time, our unconscious mind will be on alert for all signs of dog, and can activate a whole-body flight, fright or freeze response to protect us if it senses impending danger again.
Whilst this intricately complex system is perfectly designed to keep us safe and ready to respond to danger, it can also hold us back by activating ‘danger’ responses in everyday situation such as public speaking, social situations or going for that promotion. In that way it may also be holding us back from what we want.
If we want to create lasting changes in our lives we have to get to the root of the issues in our unconscious mind. Many of the techniques that I incorporate into my practice, such as hypnotherapy, time-line therapy and neuro-linguistic programming, work by helping to retrain and rewire the unconscious mind so that it stops driving the unwanted thoughts, emotions or behaviours that stop you getting what you really want in your life.
You Want To Change So Why Hasn’t It Happened So Far?
- Why do we make resolutions over and over again but find ourselves right back doing that same old habit or pattern?
- Why do those same old feelings keep erupting and sabotaging our health, success and relationships?
- Why does it sometimes feel as though our mind and body has a mind of its own?
We all have behaviours, habits, fears and anxieties which we know are reducing the quality of our lives but which we somehow seem unable to change. We like to think we are in charge but the truth of the matter is that our unconscious mind is guiding our behaviour and unconscious responses to everyday situations 90% of the time without us realising it. Just deciding we want to change isn’t always enough and explains why we carry on doing the same things over and over again. We do our very best to try different strategies but without success. Most of the time all we are actually doing is managing the surface symptoms rather than getting to the root of the issue.
The unconscious mind is a store house of information, emotions and memories. It is this aspect of our mind which is the source of our deepest fears, beliefs and attitudes. The unconscious mind uses past experiences to give context to present situations, so that it can help us to know how best to respond to every moment. For instance if a dog has attacked us once upon a time, our unconsious mind will be actively looking out for all signs of ‘dog’, because ‘dog’ means ‘danger’. Before we are even consciously aware of a dog in our environment, our unconscious mind may already have activated a flight, fright or freeze response to protect us from this impending danger.
Whilst this intricately complex system is incredible at keeping us safe and ready to respond to danger, in many instances, it may also be activating responses and protecting us from very un-dangerous things like, public speaking, intimacy, social situations, success, work, fitness and other everyday situations which we actually want.